Reasons Vs Results

Today’s post is going to be a shorter one than usual. In it I want to briefly touch on one of the key points I made in my latest video on YouTube, which you can find here:

The video is definitely one to watch and is of a conversation between my friend Daniel Mangena and I at the end of last year. It is such a fun but honest conversation about all things transformation, achieving change, what it takes to make positive changes in your life and so, SO much more!

Check it out and let me know what you think and what you took away from it. I’ve had lots of positive feedback on Instagram about it and what Dan and I discussed has really helped people to start making really positive changes in their lives.

So I wonder…

Are there things that you too want to do in your life?

Are there things that you want to change?

And if there are, what action are you taking to make those changes?

I know that this might be a bit testy for some people, but could there perhaps be excuses that you’re making that are preventing you from making the changes?

Oftentimes, we think that life prevents us, circumstances prevent us, our childhood and background prevents us.

The truth is that these are just excuses.

Yes, they may be the “reality” of your life, but how are you allowing them to get in the way and how are you stepping back from possibility and opportunity by continuing to believe in those old stories and remaining at the effect of the circumstances of your life.

Ask yourself:

“What are the excuses I’m making that are stopping me from having things be that way, the way I want?”

Some common ones that come to mind are:

“I don’t have enough money.”

“I don’t have enough time.”

“I don’t know where to start or how to do it.”

These are all reasons, maybe ones that feel really valid, but are you going to allow your reasons to stop you from having your life be the way you want it?

Or are your goals and dreams big enough to cause you to choose to get out of your own way and find ways to overcome your reasons so that you can start creating your life on purpose?

“I don’t have enough money.”

Money often comes up as a limitation for people. But there is always a way to find more money if what you want to achieve is important enough. Money is just energy and there is an abundance and unlimited amount of this available to us all. An extra part-time job or asking for a raise at work could significantly improve things.

“I don’t have enough time.”

There is always time if we are willing to make sacrifices.

“I don’t know where to start or how to do it.”

It doesn’t matter whether you know how to do it or where to start; there is someone out there that does, can and wants to help you. You might need to pay for the help that you want, but being willing to invest in yourself is a step you will surely need to make at some point if you’re serious about making positive changes in your life.

I was born into and raised in one of the most impoverished areas in the UK. I experienced significant trauma in childhood, adolescent and adult life. One of the things that has given me the ability to overcome the adversity that I’ve faced is my ability to be at Cause for my life and learn how to take full responsibility for the outcomes that I achieve. I’ve invested tens of thousands of pounds into my personal evolution and into transforming my life.

Did I always have the money?

No.

But I found a way to borrow or make it so that I could create the life that I wanted.

Being at Cause means taking responsibility for how your life unfolds, regardless of your life circumstances.

It is saying,

“Yes, that happened in my past and it wasn’t great. In fact it was beyond awful and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. But I’m going to take full responsibility for having things be different now and in the future.”

It is one of the most empowering things you will ever do and it is how you take you power back. Rather than being mercy to the ebbs and flows of life, being pushed and pulled and giving power to whatever life throws at you, you can take your power back and be in charge of how you allow yourself to be affected by the circumstances of your life.

So that’s my offering today and I would love to know what questions you have. Fell free to leave them in the comments below or send me an email to hello@ayodeleokolade.com and I’ll be sure to respond wherever you feel happiest to connect.

Bye for now!